Some times I really don’t have much to say, and other times I have a lot but I’m either not convinced that anyone would want to read it, or I don’t know how to put into words the stuff in my head without offending someone.
So here is a post that could go either way…. Deep breath….
I have been engaged with the sex workers and homeless for 10 years now. For those who did not know me before we teamed up with One Future Foundation they might be mistaken to believe that that was when it all started for us. But truth is we have been invested for 10 years.
I get asked by the new to the calling “why do you get so emotional?”, “why do you get angry?”, “why do you cry?”, “why don’t you communicate better?”.
My answer is the same each time… “Because I CARE.”
We are invested. Not just a few months, not just once a week. Not just a Thursday evening, or a Wednesday morning. EVERY SINGLE DAY. We are invested.
After being in full time ministry for 21 years there are a few things that I know to be true.
When a calling is placed on your life and you decide to walk in obedience, all hell breaks loose. Your marriage will be attacked. You will argue with the one person who you love the most in all the world. You will disagree on the smallest of things. You will not be able to hear their heart. Satan HATES your marriage. And he also hates it when you walk in obedience to the Father’s calling.
Sadly many see this as a sign that they are not walking in Gods will and they step back, and magically the “problems” vanish… NO FOLKS!! The problems didn’t vanish, you’re no longer such a threat to the enemy and so he eases up on you! Wake up and see the difference. Mart and I have had INSANE battles in our marriage. We had to literally fight for it. But not once did we walk away from God’s calling and use it as an excuse to step back. In fact it had the opposite effect, we pushed into ministry harder, followed the calling with more earnest.
When you KNOW that you have been called and have made the commitment to answer you learn to hold on through all hell. I’ve had people say that they have to put their marriage first. WRONG. You have to put Him first.
Another area that comes under attack is our family as a unit. Satan HATES your kids. He hates their innocence and their joy. He hates their resilience. And so he will attack them. He knows that if he can get to your kids then he can get to you. I’ve seen so many people walk away or step back from their calling because they see their kids battling. Our kids battle because there is a battle going in continuously for your obedience. Satan knows that our kids are our soft spot. If he can cause disturbances with them, he knows that we will do what ever it takes to stop that, including walking away from God’s call to put them first.
Does that mean that we don’t care for our kids, or that their battles are not a big deal? Heck no! It means the opposite. You see, we are at our spiritual strongest when we are FULLY in our calling. Obedience takes sacrifice. Think about Abraham, he was willing to put his kid on the alter! That level of sacrifice and obedience is rarely seen any more. Thank God we aren’t called to those extreme measures 😁😀 But we are called to lay everything down and follow Him.
Seek first the kingdom of God, and ALL these things shall be added…
By following the call we are seeking to bring in/ usher in the Kingdom. All these things, our marriages, our children, our finances, our homes, will be added. Will be taken care of. He says it, He means it.
I have a crazy amount of friends who are in various forms of ministry, I have friends who either have, or are contemplating taking a step back, please take a second to look at your calling. Please revisit those words of knowledge, those profound scriptures, that still small voice or the booming, earth shaking call. Take a breath. And ask yourself, and ask Him, am I willing to make the investment needed? Am I willing/able to trust Your calling on my life? Am I ready to hand you my marriage, my kids, and follow You with arms outstretched? Can I be unquitable? Even when all hell is breaking loose?
I am praying that the answer is a resounding “YES!”
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