Zandile, an update.

Just a little update on Zandile… let’s just say miracles do happen!!! Addington hospital wanted to amputate her leg… Hillcrest AIDS Center have loved and nurtured and medicated her correctly and just look at the difference!!!! She has also gained a healthy amount of weight and is super cheerful and positive. We are blown away.

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Oh Christmas tree…

I spend a couple of hours a day talking with a couple of my girls. I love all of our ladies but these 2 have my heart and I consider them as my friends.

There is a profound potential in each of them, and I am committed to walking with them.
Last night Mik was super excited about setting up her Christmas tree in her room at the brothel. And was even more excited when I told her that I have some pretty clothes and shoes for her. Her love language is gifts and quality time, the same as me! So tonight when I go to be brothel both Mik and I will get our love tanks filled. .
Relationship is CRUCIAL to the work that we do. With relationship comes trust and respect. With relationship comes the authority to speak into someone’s life. And with relationship comes the ability to truly hear the words spoken, knowing that they come from a place of love. .
I can not wait to see our precious girls tonight. .

#unconditionallove #extravagantgrace #hopeforthesoul #durbansextrade #weseeyouweloveyou

Ache

There is a level of sadness that no words can describe. It’s deep, profound, tangible and traumatic. Sometimes we just need to hold them. Absorb some of the pain, and try to replace it with love. It’s hard, painful and continuous. We will not give up. .

#unconditionallove #extravagantgrace #hopeforthesoul #durbansextrade #weseeyouweloveyou

Mik

Laying on her bed in the brothel while she tells us about the client who hurt her body. It makes me so angry.

I understand why she does this job, I get it, I hate it, but I get it.

And when she tries to be open and vulnerable with us I can see the battle raging. Keep it in and ignore the trauma or talk about it all and have to face the pain of healing.

It’s been a long painful journey this far, but she is so very worth it. As she smokes her mandrex and tries to prepare for her next client I watch her and silently pray, she won’t let me pray for her, even though she knows that I already do. I prayed for her once and the dam broke, since then she has reinforced that dam.

One day Love will blow it wide open and healing and freedom will come. Until then we will keep showing up, listening and loving her unconditionally. .

#unconditionallove #extravagantgrace #hopeforthesoul #durbansextrade #weseeyouweloveyou

This week was heavy. Our precious girls are in so much pain. Abuse coming from all directions aimed directly at them. Their vulnerability makes them targets for the darkest predators. One of our girls was gang raped and is now HIV+ and pregnant. One had a full break down and went on an emotional rant for 20 minutes, reducing everyone to tears due to the raw pain and fear emanating from her. The new brothel was full of physically and emotionally broken woman. Addiction, STDs, HIV, breaking their bodies, some beyond repair. Everything within me wanted to pull them into my arms and hold them together. My whole being aching for them, for their loss, for their pain and grief.
The levels of exploitation in our city are growing daily. Women and girls, so vulnerable and so broken, exploited every day over and over by men who are trying to prove that they are powerful. We sit and listen to the stories of perverse sexual acts which are forced upon our girls and wonder what is the root of this evil in our city. There is one particular community of men who seem to dominate the purchasing of sex in our city, and we don’t know how to even start combating that. My anger is close to volcanic and I try so hard to control my emotions towards these men, but it’s near to impossible. I need a whole new level of Grace over my life if I am going to continue to love as He has called me to.
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#unconditionallove #extravagantgrace #hopeforthesoul #durbansextrade

This is us.

The past couple of months have gone so very fast. We have had highs and lows, health issues and happy birthdays.

Jesse turned 12. He is doing so well at school, tackling his learning difficulties like a champ and genuinely loving life. He’s a complete joy.

Then Joseph turned 13, yup I have a teenager!!! He is excelling at school and just finished up his end of year exams today. He is obsessed with Marvel comics, music and teasing his Mum! Apparently it’s hysterical that I can’t help him with his math homework.

Then this little sausage just continues to bring joy and laughter every single day. He is also loving school and has fantastic stories of all the fun. He is super smart and has everyone wrapped around his little finger.

Both Martin and I battled illness during the past couple of months, I had a horrible bout of bronchitis and Mart got pneumonia. It was pretty awful, but we are now out the other side and feeling much better.

Ministry has been particularly hard recently. We are really feeling the darkness pushing back as we advance. Many of our girls are dying and it is heart breaking. We are so restricted financially and it is incredibly frustrating. We are seeing progress, but it’s slow and painful. We really appreciate your prayers and support.

Sometimes the darkness feels overwhelming but then God…

He is our portion and our strength. He is our peace and our joy. He keeps us going. All of this is for His glory.

We would really appreciate your prayers for our family, for our finances and for the ministry.

We love and appreciate you all so much.

if you would like to support our family, either on a regular basis or a one off gift please go to http://www.justgiving.com/kingsroadchurch paypal: downseyluff@aol.com

if you are a uk tax payer and would like to give monthly through stewardship please email my mum lindsey.toms57@gmail.com

With our love

Mart, Vash and the kids.

The journey home.

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This past week has been amazing. In one week we managed to help 2 of our ladies get home and be restored to their families. One of our team members spoke with both families and she heard first hand from the mothers of our ladies just how thankful they are to our team member and to Hope’s Anchor for helping their daughters. Both ladies are very sick and now that they are home with their Mamas they are able to start healing.

Next Praise report… Zandile managed to get enough strength together to make it to the hospital for her chest x-ray. This in itself is a miracle. This brave woman is fighting every day. It has been touch and go and yet Zan is still alive and fighting. We await the x-ray results.

Thirdly… This week 2 of our ladies started new jobs. For both of them this is the first job that they have had other than the sex trade. This is MASSIVE! Pinky was rehabilitated and restored to her family last year and we are beyond proud of her. What a fighter she is. She has stayed clean and focused and has made amazing progress in the healing of her life and her relationships with her family.
Zama started her new job at our team member’s bakery this past Wednesday. Although she is still battling addiction she is proving that she is serious about rehabilitation and moving forward with her life. The ultimate goal is to be clean, working and restored to her grandparents. It is happening before our eyes and we are so so proud of her.

Our whole team is in awe of these amazing women. What an incredible honor to be able to know and love these women. Every week we are blown away by the love of the Father. We have an anticipation for this coming week. Something AMAZING is going on.

 

Here are a few ways that you can support our family in this work that we are doing…

  • http://www.justgiving.com/kingsroadchurch
  • PayPal account downseyluff@aol.com
  • send me a PM and I will give you our banking details
  • if you are a UK tax payer and would like to set up a monthly payment then please email my mum at lindsey.toms57@gmail.com and she will send you a form for our Stewardship account

Thank you to all our supporters without your prayers and financial support we couldn’t do this vital work.

Women are being saved, their lives changed and their identities realized because of your support. YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE.

We love and appreciate you all very much.

Blessings.

Mart, Vash and the boys. xxx